Blow Out
I was supposed to be spending my Saturday evening with The Contender and got blown out big style about an hour and a half ago. NML is not a happy camper although I am doing my best to be understanding. He's wrecked after getting 3 hours sleep last night and he spent all day with estate agents so he didn't get a chance to catch up on the sleep. (I'm not making excuses for him, I'm just giving you his excuse)
I've never been blown out by a guy who I've had an arrangement with so this is a new experience for me after 27 almost 28 years. He says he didn't think it was fair to come around bleary eyed and over tired and I do understand, but me being me, I do feel like saying a few choice expletives around the flat to vent my fustration. I'm not sure what to do with myself as most of my friends are doing coupley things this evening. Admittedly I'm not feeling so energetic myself.......
Today was a day of firsts because before a blow out appeared on the horizon I went to my very first exercise class. Anybody who has been reading this blog long enough knows that I'm a lazy f*ck! I spent most of my life never needing to go near a gym and even though I was very athletic and a keen dancer in my teens, in my twenties I have never been able to convince myself to actually physically part with the cash and join the gym. I'm not as skinny as I used to be due to taking the poxy steroids and whilst I do love most of my new curves, I have become conscious of needing to exercise. I did com-bo (think it's something to do with kai-bo?) and I swear, I have stretched places that I didn't know I could stretch, and I have sweated in places I didn't know I could sweat. My friend said she was really surprised that I kept up for most of the class - I'm bloody surprised too! The hour actually flew by and I hate to admit it, but I enjoyed the class. I'm not about to become a gym freak (sweat and I don't mix, a bit like water and oil) but I am going to continue the classes.
So I'm parked up on the couch smelling delightful in my dressing gown and a Saturday evening to play with. Who knows what I'll do........
If you get the chance, pay a visit to an ex-colleague of mine's blog Dubai Days. The funny bastard used to be mine and B's playmate at work and I was gutted when he left us to go out and work in Dubai. He would do the running man, hammertime and various Michael Jackson moves, and this was before we even left the office! B and I drove him insane by annoucing that we needed a wee everytime we went to the toilet and he definitely fancied himself as a ladies man, which is an idea that he seems to have carried with him to Dubai. If you read his first post, you'll see that he gives me a mention although he does describe parts of my life as 'cringey' to read about. He'd better hope he stays out there as I'll be beating his ass for that comment when he comes back to the UK.
Enjoy your weekends! I'll be sobbing into my tea and biscuits............don't make me laugh! Like f*ck I will!
I've never been blown out by a guy who I've had an arrangement with so this is a new experience for me after 27 almost 28 years. He says he didn't think it was fair to come around bleary eyed and over tired and I do understand, but me being me, I do feel like saying a few choice expletives around the flat to vent my fustration. I'm not sure what to do with myself as most of my friends are doing coupley things this evening. Admittedly I'm not feeling so energetic myself.......
Today was a day of firsts because before a blow out appeared on the horizon I went to my very first exercise class. Anybody who has been reading this blog long enough knows that I'm a lazy f*ck! I spent most of my life never needing to go near a gym and even though I was very athletic and a keen dancer in my teens, in my twenties I have never been able to convince myself to actually physically part with the cash and join the gym. I'm not as skinny as I used to be due to taking the poxy steroids and whilst I do love most of my new curves, I have become conscious of needing to exercise. I did com-bo (think it's something to do with kai-bo?) and I swear, I have stretched places that I didn't know I could stretch, and I have sweated in places I didn't know I could sweat. My friend said she was really surprised that I kept up for most of the class - I'm bloody surprised too! The hour actually flew by and I hate to admit it, but I enjoyed the class. I'm not about to become a gym freak (sweat and I don't mix, a bit like water and oil) but I am going to continue the classes.
So I'm parked up on the couch smelling delightful in my dressing gown and a Saturday evening to play with. Who knows what I'll do........
If you get the chance, pay a visit to an ex-colleague of mine's blog Dubai Days. The funny bastard used to be mine and B's playmate at work and I was gutted when he left us to go out and work in Dubai. He would do the running man, hammertime and various Michael Jackson moves, and this was before we even left the office! B and I drove him insane by annoucing that we needed a wee everytime we went to the toilet and he definitely fancied himself as a ladies man, which is an idea that he seems to have carried with him to Dubai. If you read his first post, you'll see that he gives me a mention although he does describe parts of my life as 'cringey' to read about. He'd better hope he stays out there as I'll be beating his ass for that comment when he comes back to the UK.
Enjoy your weekends! I'll be sobbing into my tea and biscuits............don't make me laugh! Like f*ck I will!
12 Comments:
you've never been blown off like that? wow, you get sure respect from guys. :) i'd let it pass this time but totally understand your frustration because no doubt you were getting excited for it. but if it keeps repeating itself, then he's not prioritizing his time with you. i hope it's a one-time thing.
way to go for keeping up in class. i'm proud of you for wanting to stick with it no matter you don't like exercising. it's not just a body-thing, it's also mental relaxation that you may enjoy. and if you get bored, you can mix it up with a different kind of class. :)
Boo to TC for canceling! This is how I see it: everyone gets one free pass, and maybe a second pass if there is a really good explanation. After that, it's a pattern and it's time to say goodbye. As wyn points out, he needs to make you a high priority. If he consistently doesn't, then he's (let's say it together) "not that into you." But, look, he's dealing with stuff he needs to deal with and that's good. He's not spending time with you in order to avoid the complications in his life--he's getting through the complicated stuff first so he'll have more time for you :) So, relax, have a hot bath and go out for a pint at the pub (you do that in London, right?). There's not a damn thing you can do about it, so why worry?
I agree with Wyn. He has one more chance, and if he flakes out again, he's OUT! It sucks, though, I totally sympathize.
Mental relaxation is wondeful. Its great that you are feeding your mind as well as your body. We all make mistakes, not too often hopefully:-)
Best wishes
Kathleen
NML, what would be worse to you: TC showing up for the date but being completely wiped out and unattentive, or TC canceling shortly before (and telling you why), and giving you the rest of your evening so he can rest up and have the energy to give you all his attention the next time around?
I know I skewed that question to try and make a point. The point is, I myself know exactly what it's like to just go on 3 hours of sleep, and let me tell you, it's not pretty. When we go out on dates, especially with girls we really like, we want to put our best foot forward as much as we can, and especially because you're such a good catch *wink*, he probably didn't want to be caught on anything less than wonderful behavior around you. He wants to impress you every time he's with you, and I can't blame him for wanting to be with you only under the best of mental conditions. 3 hours is tough! Give him a little room here, and I'm sure he'll appreciate it.
Wyn - I'm actually fine about it. Yeah I was disappointed but it did make sense for him not to come round when he was so tired and it's not like it was for a better social occasion. I just like getting my own way ;-) I'm actually quite looking forward to the next class which is a strange concept for me. i don't even hurt that much today but I hear it's the 2nd day that's the worst!
Jamy - I'm not too fussed because his excuse was genuine and he had a good reason. He has got a lot going on right now and I'm going to cut him some slack because I don't think he was being a bastard. I had a delightful evening with me, myself and I. :-)
BB - Welcome back! Thanks and I am heeding all of your advice. Dating whilst it is fun, can suck. I hope you're having lots of fun! :-)
Kathleen - Always lovely to get a visit from you! Absolutely and I feel great. TC is fine and I'll chalk it up to a learning experiece.x
DD - I know, I know {hangs head in shame} I was being a prima donna because you know I like to get my own way. I totally see where you're coming from and I know that you're absolutely correct. {big hug} Thanks for calling me a good catch and I hope you've had a real good time in Seattle. I expect nothing less than a full report x
Maybe he figured that the chances of him getting some pussy from you that night weren't good and decided not to make the investment in going out. Dinner isn't cheap and why dump the cash if you're not as least going to get a good blow job?
NML - He let you know, he didn't just blow you off. DD is on the mark again - damn he's good.
pikkel weezel - fuck off!
Ahhhh, CRAP! He better make it up to you the next time you get together. I hate it when you have your hopes up for something and then it crashes and burns and you have no control over it. Why was he so short on sleep? Was he partying?
Pikkel Weezel - Really are a weasel eh? Thanks for the comment. I don't really see the point of your visit and comment......
Broom - I fully agree re Saturday night and was just venting. Wounded ego I guess ;-) Well said re the previous commenter.
HDL - All is well. I saw him last night and I do feel that Saturday was a genuine excuse. He's apologised and it's forgotten. He did got out on fri and although he didn't get drunk, he didn't go to sleep until 4 and had to get up early. Men! He should have been in preening for a Saturday night! Joke! x
A distant friend of mine employed an interestingly Karmic strategy. In this situation, she'd make herself rare. If she was treated, she'd reciprocate. Guys are simple, they respond to stimuli. Of course being a guy, I'll always favour giving him a chance. ;-)
Geokker - I am definitely employing that Karmic strategy. It makes life so much easier at this stage of a relationship where there seem to be so many unknowns. However, I do like TC and I am giving him a chance. See, I'm not that bad! ;-)
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