Do I Give Off a Different Scent? Do robbers ring doorbells?
I was on my way home yesterday on the train, quite absorbed in my book when I felt compelled to look around as I felt like I was being watched. I looked up and a male passenger was staring at me and he smiled when our eyes met. In that moment I felt quite confused. I wonder if I'm smuggling peanuts? I thought to myself as there had been a few times today when my nipples looked like bullets under my cardigan and top. I quickly glanced down, felt relieved at the lack of peanuts and then promptly felt embarassed as he was still watching me. I looked back down at my book and I realised: I used to get chatted up, eyed up and approached by guys all the time, albeit mostly strange ones. This was the first time I recalled a guy giving me the eye for ages! Do I give off a different scent now that I'm no longer single?
I used to either get very flustered or burst out laughing when I was approached and who knows what I would do now. I would be mortified if I started going "I have a boyfriend! I have a boyfriend!" to some guy and he replied with "I just wanted to know the time...."
People do say that I'm different in person now which is amusing in some respects as I think people love to project that fear of being alone onto you and then translate that into She is happier. It must be because she has a man. My work colleagues think I'm more mellow and less bitchy (probably debatable...) since the arrival of the boyf and they love making a holy show of me and giving the boyf advice on how to 'manage' me. I do smile a lot more but I have quite a lot to be happy about. When you're not worried about your immune system breaking down on you, it's amazing what a good mood you can be in...but yes it helps to be in love!
I did wonder if the old scent that I unwittingly gave off said I'm gagging for a man... but I think I just have one of those faces that invites people to talk shite to me. A lot of people in London ask me for directions so I must look quite approachable because people are normally scared to ask for directions in big cities!
The doorbell rang at the flat last night and I froze in panic and thought Who the f*ck is ringing the door at this time? Oh my God, what if it's a rapist or a robber? Oh sh*t! I approached the door and asked who it was without opening it. "I'm here to drop off a ticket" he said and my mind raced. Is this an elaborate ploy to get into the flat?....Do rapists and robbers ring the doorbell before they commit the crime?....Who in their right mind would climb those hideous flights of stairs to come up here and rob or rape me? They'd be bloody exhausted!...Oh sh*t! The boyf did mention something about cricket tickets....
When men live with women, I do wonder how they managed beforehand. The boyf is always asking me to remember or do stuff and I am constantly amused. We had a recent debacle over the grocery shopping where we were going to go together but he expressed concern that it would make me late to meet the bro. So I agreed and told him to go on his own and he looked panic stricken. "But I won't know what to get!" he whined. Frequent utterances include "Where is my...?" and "Have you seen the...?" Can you believe we've only lived together for 5 weeks!?
I used to either get very flustered or burst out laughing when I was approached and who knows what I would do now. I would be mortified if I started going "I have a boyfriend! I have a boyfriend!" to some guy and he replied with "I just wanted to know the time...."
People do say that I'm different in person now which is amusing in some respects as I think people love to project that fear of being alone onto you and then translate that into She is happier. It must be because she has a man. My work colleagues think I'm more mellow and less bitchy (probably debatable...) since the arrival of the boyf and they love making a holy show of me and giving the boyf advice on how to 'manage' me. I do smile a lot more but I have quite a lot to be happy about. When you're not worried about your immune system breaking down on you, it's amazing what a good mood you can be in...but yes it helps to be in love!
I did wonder if the old scent that I unwittingly gave off said I'm gagging for a man... but I think I just have one of those faces that invites people to talk shite to me. A lot of people in London ask me for directions so I must look quite approachable because people are normally scared to ask for directions in big cities!
The doorbell rang at the flat last night and I froze in panic and thought Who the f*ck is ringing the door at this time? Oh my God, what if it's a rapist or a robber? Oh sh*t! I approached the door and asked who it was without opening it. "I'm here to drop off a ticket" he said and my mind raced. Is this an elaborate ploy to get into the flat?....Do rapists and robbers ring the doorbell before they commit the crime?....Who in their right mind would climb those hideous flights of stairs to come up here and rob or rape me? They'd be bloody exhausted!...Oh sh*t! The boyf did mention something about cricket tickets....
When men live with women, I do wonder how they managed beforehand. The boyf is always asking me to remember or do stuff and I am constantly amused. We had a recent debacle over the grocery shopping where we were going to go together but he expressed concern that it would make me late to meet the bro. So I agreed and told him to go on his own and he looked panic stricken. "But I won't know what to get!" he whined. Frequent utterances include "Where is my...?" and "Have you seen the...?" Can you believe we've only lived together for 5 weeks!?
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I guess I should at least say something...being the first and all. I'm glad your immune system is doing much better. I wish my hemo system could laud the same thing...ugh!
I am very happy with all of this...
really NML...
Very happy!
You must have a smile or a friendly look on you to have all those people approaching you for directions! Then again, being a guy, back in my single days, I'd look for any reason to chat up a cute gal. :)
And don't you have a little peep hole on your door? That way you can see if it's really a thug!
hey sistalove, i love your stories. they warm my heart. living with men is interesting. i have often become the one who is asking where my things are. i tend to attract the overly domesticated men who know thread count, cook, clean, and have order to everything they do ... i always end up living a much higher quality of life... and that helps as i move on in life.... lots of laughs to you and happy smiles as you celebrate being happy, healthy and in love... enjoy ... this is how it is ... living in the light. much love to you and the boyf... paz, ananda
Did you ever asked him how he managed to survive before living with you? Belirve me.. this is a well known males tactic to have nothing to think about... you know... he doesn't... Same thing with the chores they don't want to do... if ever you ask them to do the clothe's washing, be sure they will screw up... you wont ask never ever... same thing with cooking... they will bring home the worst frosen lasagna you ever see... and you will never ask again... ;-))
Ah!!!!
Smuggling peanuts? Ha! I am so using this in a sentence today.
It's the oposite with me because my wife is always asking me where things are. As a matter of fact, she usually gives things to me if she doesn't want to misplace it. Does that make me a She-Man? :)
By the way, no man can resist a woman who is "smuggling peanuts." It just drives us crazy and all we can think about is making peanut butter. *grin*
Have a great weekend!
So, hang on, the guy smiled at you, and your response was to look downwards, thus visually inviting him to stare at your breasts? (Not that we usually need an invite or anything but... you know...)
I'm so glad that your health is back on track! :-)
"This was the first time I recalled a guy giving me the eye for ages! Do I give off a different scent now that I'm no longer single?"
There are transitions we make that affect us very deeply. Loss, injury and close calls, and the blessings of love in our lives. They change us.
I imagine the biggest change is that your body language is now expressing 'satisfied', when before it was 'I am an accomplished sexual person', or at times 'I hurt and I am not sure why'. Partly expression, partly clothes and accessories choice, partly posture, partly timing of movements including walking, turning your head, eye movements.
And I am also convinced that you exchange hormones and pheromones with those around you -- a real basis for people disturbed by crowds. By spending hours per week sharing breaths (and skin contact and other essences), your bodies adapt to each other. You would notice this physical aspect of bonding more painfully were you to part from the boyf. But your hormones, by adapting to the boyf, are now different, less 'provoking' to others.
And of course there is a world of difference between the smile of a woman secure at home, and one looking for a good time. Welcome 'home'.
"It must be because she has a man. My work colleagues think I'm more mellow and less bitchy"
I didn't expect to see that on a blog called Tired of Men. Looks like you learned your lesson.
-Dick
Vixen - Sorry to hear that you've been unwell again. Get better soon x
EE Vasive - Thanks darling!
The Dummy - I just noticed that you've droped 'Dating' from your name ;-) I must look at my door and see if I have a peep hole. You always were very good at giving an insight into male behaviour.
Ananda - The boyf is very domesticated fortunately but I think he just likes me fussing over him!
SeaRabbit - Hilarious! I am wise to those tricks and fortunately he'd rather not risk my wrath. Thanks for the tip though as I'll be watching him with my beady eye ;-)
Sweet - I hope you got muchos use out of it.
Stephen - Hehe. Nah, I think it's just that comfortable, dependable element of the relationship. Jaysus, I have had some serious peanut issues!
Alan - I know! I made a right tit out of myself ;-)
NYM - Yay for me!
Brad K - Wow! You always have a very interesting slant on things. I most definitely gave off a different vibe and I do believe that we all do that and it has a lot to do with what we attract.
Dick Masterson - Let's just say that lots of things have changed although boys do still wear me out ;-)
"Smuggling peanuts"??? Where do you get these classics?
As for being perceived as more mellow, babe... well, you're getting regularly sorted. Duh!
another great post (you have been top notch, lately, NML!) from you.
how funny would that have been if he really had just wanted the time! i would have been mortified!!
i do agree that you give off a vibe when you are taken or thinking of someone special--for me, when it rains, it pours. i am either feast or famine in the love department. i am glad you weren't having peanut issues, though--little is more embarrassing than that.
i laughed at how you thought a rapist would ring the doorbell after climbing stairs! you crack me up! guys don't get that kind of thought process, do they?
Glad you are so happy!!!! it puts a smile on my face. :)
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