Day 18 in NML's house, her ma is still ignoring her even though she has no reason.
Yep, it seems that peace and quiet will continue to reign. Whilst I have been irritated at her behaviour (OK p*ssed off) at times, I recognise that this is an opportunity to not have to cater to lots of drama and enjoy normality. There's no denying I love my ma but I don't like relationships with anyone where it's their way or the highway. If I was five and she could threaten me with a can of whupass then things would be different, but I'm thirty. Those times of expecting that I will say, do, and think as you want are over. I am a firm believer that if the only way you can have a relationship with me and be happy is if I only do things on your terms, then we can't have a relationship, that's why I stopped going out with assclowns.
Considering how many I dated in the past, I have been down the road of jumping to someone else's beat far too many times and the only beat I jump to, is my own now.
I must get one of those clocks for the blog which shows the number of days since she stopped speaking to me. The whole situation is so ridiculous it's funny!
In the meantime, the boyf has FINALLY put the bed back up after, oh I don't know, four months! Two more paintings have gone up and I've threatened to put them outside if he doesn't sort out the remainder. It just goes to show...periodical nagging does pay off...after a few months! Note to self: increase frequency of nagging and stop accepting excuses of bad back, sore toe, extra bone in the foot pain....
Tuesday, April 01, 2008
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It is interesting that today, you use that particular five-letter word.
Do you suppose that we seek so much of this type of interaction in our lives because parents exaggerated reactions when we were young? It was never, "that's wrong", it was "Don't you love me?"
Drama. It got to be a habit of parenting - a bad habit for parents that they often fail to recognize, a bad habit for the offspring, since they only get cordial reactions from friends, school - strangers.
I wonder if nagging is an aspect of drama, or of disrespect and dishonor. Certainly, if you had the authority and responsibility to issue orders ("Hang those pictures."), then the responsible thing for the boyf to have done would be to hang them. Failing to hang the pictures then must either be disrespect and rebellion - or have something to do with whether you have that authority you thought you had. Sounds almost like you have become your mother. Sigh. At such a young age, too. Pity. lol!
I wish you peace and joy, for you and your family, and your mother, too. Both now, and after the Great Divide of Broken Expectations.
Brad - You're lucky I have a sense of humour! The failure to hang the pictures harks back to a post from a couple of weeks ago. He became a bit of a buying paintings on ebay fanatic and he probably now has more paintings than walls, plus he needs to buy frames. Between travelling to Germany every second week and our pretty busy life, he doesn't always get around to stuff. It is not something critical but I do like throwing it out to him as a reminder that he hasn't got the greatest memory ever! And the bed was because we were having work done on the house and he didn't want to take it up and down, plus claiming a various injuries. It's supposed to be a joke!
lol! "extra bone in the foot pain" :)That's funny.
Nagging would definitely get me off my behind. I can't take it.
Hi! Thought I'd check in while I'm on vacation. These bastards have rotgut coffee over here, but I'm enjoying the fromage. Ta!
hey sistalove. i am sending you and your mom love and light. may all things work out for everyone's greater good. enjoy the peace and quiet. continue to live healthy and in peace. glad the bed is up in the house. enjoy april. peace, ananda
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