Well after a pretty eventful seven days since that bloody article about e-venge was published by the Daily Mail, it was removed last night.
The most distressing result of this defamatory article with all of its whopping 26 inaccuracies, was that it triggered a spate of harassment from my (convicted) cyberstalker for three frickin' days over the weekend, with some of the nastiness still on their blog. The irony is that this was the very same cyberstalker that the Daily Mail derided as a "maniac" in their very own paper!
When I was going to the efforts to protect the boyf and the bambino's name from being included and to ensure that I didn't appear in a 'revenge' article, it was because I was trying to protect my family and also protect myself from being falsely accused of the very thing that I have a five year ASBO protecting me from the actions of my cyberstalker!
Instead, the article triggered a spate of harassment and hate as the cyberstalker took great delight in believing the projection of their own crimes on me were now actually true and breached the crap out of the ASBO!
I was going to say that the Daily Mail have no idea what it is like to be cyberstalked, but they do actually, because they didn't mind writing about how awful it was before... It was so demoralising having to go to the blogs that had shown me support and explain that the person placing nasty comments accusing me of being a stalker or pretending to be my "slandered" ex boyfriends, is actually my harasser.
And what's even worse is that some of her other victims got caught in the backlash of it too and even though it was irrational at the time, I felt guilty that someone else was suffering again unnecessarily.
Anyway, at least it has been taken down now in what is described by the managing editor as a "gesture of good will" whilst the Press Complaints Commission investigate...
In the meantime, it's time to get back to normal sleeping, eating, and living, as I can't allow what has happened or the waiting game to consume me as I have an 11 month old diva with questioning chocolate brown eyes that wants my attention, to destroy the house, or to use the TV stand or shelves as a climbing frame...plus I have the boyf who has missed having a laugh and hurling competitive insults over the Wii Fitness....
In all of the craziness that ensued last week, it was great to find support in so many lovely people whether they wrote to me, commented, wrote a comment of support, or even went to the Daily Mail's website and left a comment (that never got published). Thank you.
This isn't the last of this as I now have to await the result of the investigation by the Press Complaints Commission, but for now, I can rest a little easier as that bloody page has been taken off their website.
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Wednesday, May 14, 2008
Thursday, May 08, 2008
The Daily Mail Newspaper Tells Everyone that I Blog for "E-Venge"
On April 30th just after 3.30pm, I snatched up my phone and bit the bullet. I called up the journalist that had 'interviewed' me (I say this loosely) and expressed my upset at her not actually stating that she was interviewing me and my concern that I would be included in a feature about revenge, which is not what I, or this blog are about. I told her quite shrilly (I was stressed for fecks sake) that I did NOT want to open the paper and see something like "Blogger gets revenge on ex with her blog!" or some other pathetic headline.
I went onto the Daily Mails supposed section for women yesterday and actually nearly threw up in shock!
"Don't get mad, get E-VENGE!"
It's even worse in the paper where just in case the Daily Mail hadn't quite put the full boot into misrepresenting me and featuring me in article full of TWENTY SIX inaccuracies about me, they added a sub header of "It's the new mantra for women using the internet to take revenge on cheating men".
Really, I don't think I have EVER been so angry!
I want to categorically state for the record that I did NOT set up this blog to take revenge on my ex. I set up this blog after a bad date with PC Plod, the extremely nice guy but incredibly boring copper. God that was almost four years ago!
I found out that my ex had been cheating after I started the blog - actually it was the following day. But actually, you don't need me to tell you this because anybody can read go back and check the facts and see for themselves!
Update May 9th - Here are some examples of inaccuracies:
"Natalie like a growing number of other betrayed and deceived women, decided to take her revenge online. 'I woke up at 5am and felt an overwhelming urge to vent my anger'.....'So I logged onto my computer and set up a blog'"
Total and utter poo. This is my first ever blog post. I did set up the blog at 5am because I couldn't sleep. Considering that I didn't know when I started the blog that my ex had been doing a bit of overlapping, how could I have felt such anger to set up a blog?
"In the past, Natalie might have taken revenge by cutting up her faithless fiancé's clothes, or perhaps even trashing his beloved car."
Today, I had to face the embarrassment of my neighbour asking me "So have you cut up other exes clothes or trashed their cars?" This line in the piece implies that had I not had access to the internet, I'd have done exactly that or 'may' have done this in the past....
"It felt great to release the pent-up frustration," says Natalie Lue, who was engaged to Tom for five years, but discovered his infidelity only after ending their relationship.
I told her I started the blog to vent about my frustrations about dating. I was also engaged for about 15 months...
"And because we'd met through colleagues and shared mutual friends, lots of people knew exactly who I was writing about."
Total bollocks. I blogged in anonymity for almost two years! A handful of people knew about the blog but the vast majority of my readership was strangers! I hadn't even worked with the colleagues we met through for a year when I started the blog, and I haven't spoken to or seen them for about three years!
"But once Natalie had finished pouring scorn on her ex-fiancĂ Tom, she found herself reluctant to give up her blog."
Once again, the Daily Mail is making me out to be a cyber bunny boiler who just couldn't stop wreaking revenge or should I say "pouring scorn" on my exes. This is a personal blog, a diary which has provided snapshots of my life. As I didn't start this blog to take revenge, there was nothing to be reluctant about giving up! This is a total and utter fabrication!
***
Just to show how inaccurate the Daily Mail are, let me give you some interesting figures:
In June 2004, my first month, I wrote 23 posts (yeah, I was single and used to update frequently!)
Out of 23 posts, only one post is dedicated to him which equals 4% of the content.
There are 2 more posts that make a reference to him. 1 post is a positive reference and 1 post is about men peeing on toilet seats and I wisecracked that he missed the rim.
In July 2004, I wrote 27 posts. 0 were dedicated to the subject of him. 2 made a reference to him and 1 made a reference to our engagement ring which I just realised that I have still forgotten to sell after FIVE years!
In August 2004, I wrote 22 posts. 0 were dedicated to the subject of him. 2 made a reference.
That means that out of 72 posts written in 3 months, 1 PERCENT of the posts were dedicated to him!
8% referenced him.
1% referenced the engagement ring.
Now what they don't know is that FORTY THREE PERCENT!!! of posts in June 2004 seem to mention toilet seats and the fact that I was living with that strange man boy who literally couldn't p*ss on a toilet seat to save his life!
Now, how the hell did the Daily Mail come up with the idea that I set up a revenge blog when I wasn't even writing about him, never mind taking revenge? What was I doing? Taking revenge on toilet seats and men that can't pee right?
Oh and I went from being engaged for 14/15 months (I forget now after soooo much time has passed) to being engaged for FIVE years! We've been broken up for five years and I've lived in London for seven... I'm only thirty so did they think I was some sort of frickin' child bride?!
Twenty frickin' bloody six inaccuracies or just outright fabrications about me in one poxy article and to add insult to injury, they didn't even mention Baggage Reclaim which was the only reason why I had initially agreed.
Of course I have written to the Press Complaints Commission, the editor and yada, yada, yada, but the fact remains that their papers become someones loo roll the next day but that pile of shite that is their article is up online telling anyone and everyone that I am an e-venger. It's pretty disgusting and what's most appauling is that they have reduced four years of this blog, two and a half years of Baggage Reclaim, a year of Bambino Goodies, and various other blogs plus my contributing...to an act of revenge....against someone who didn't even mean enough for me to even fully dedicate the one blog post about his cheating. I even said "The revelation last night doesn't hurt, but it does anger me, but even that has passed." and then in true me fashion, I rambled on about my period....
Oh and I know for a fact that they stopped publishing comments on the story yesterday as I was contacted by several people who said that they had commented to set the record straight. So not only do they want to put up 26 inaccuracies about me, but for some reason, they don't want anyone to know about it...
If this was pre-internet days, I really would be up sh*ts creek without a paddle but thankfully the internet which has made me connect with thousands of people, make quite few friends and acquaintances, and even a stalker...has meant that at least I can respond.
Jaysus!
Update 14th May
The Daily Mail have removed the article and sent me a letter...
Update 9th May - As I start to put the word out about what has happened, I want to include links of other bloggers comments of support on their blogs. Thank you!
Dollymix - Cate Sevilla
It's About Making Babies - Brad K
Shimmering Thoughts - Serendipity
Black and Married with Kids - TheMom and TheDad
Cheekie Talkback
Rachel North
One Man Blogs - Gordon McLean
Bad Girls Guide - Vixen
40s Singleness - Lisa Q
Leyton.org
Feeling Listless
The Make - Thomas
Emchi
Morphological Confetti - Stephen Bess
The F Word - Contemporary UK Feminism
Never Mind the Bloggocks
License to Roam
Longrider
Slaminsky
Real E Fun
The Kaptain Kobold Blog
New York Moments
My updates
I'm Tired of the Daily Mail and their "tongue in cheek" article
I went onto the Daily Mails supposed section for women yesterday and actually nearly threw up in shock!
"Don't get mad, get E-VENGE!"
It's even worse in the paper where just in case the Daily Mail hadn't quite put the full boot into misrepresenting me and featuring me in article full of TWENTY SIX inaccuracies about me, they added a sub header of "It's the new mantra for women using the internet to take revenge on cheating men".
Really, I don't think I have EVER been so angry!
I want to categorically state for the record that I did NOT set up this blog to take revenge on my ex. I set up this blog after a bad date with PC Plod, the extremely nice guy but incredibly boring copper. God that was almost four years ago!
I found out that my ex had been cheating after I started the blog - actually it was the following day. But actually, you don't need me to tell you this because anybody can read go back and check the facts and see for themselves!
Update May 9th - Here are some examples of inaccuracies:
"Natalie like a growing number of other betrayed and deceived women, decided to take her revenge online. 'I woke up at 5am and felt an overwhelming urge to vent my anger'.....'So I logged onto my computer and set up a blog'"
Total and utter poo. This is my first ever blog post. I did set up the blog at 5am because I couldn't sleep. Considering that I didn't know when I started the blog that my ex had been doing a bit of overlapping, how could I have felt such anger to set up a blog?
"In the past, Natalie might have taken revenge by cutting up her faithless fiancé's clothes, or perhaps even trashing his beloved car."
Today, I had to face the embarrassment of my neighbour asking me "So have you cut up other exes clothes or trashed their cars?" This line in the piece implies that had I not had access to the internet, I'd have done exactly that or 'may' have done this in the past....
"It felt great to release the pent-up frustration," says Natalie Lue, who was engaged to Tom for five years, but discovered his infidelity only after ending their relationship.
I told her I started the blog to vent about my frustrations about dating. I was also engaged for about 15 months...
"And because we'd met through colleagues and shared mutual friends, lots of people knew exactly who I was writing about."
Total bollocks. I blogged in anonymity for almost two years! A handful of people knew about the blog but the vast majority of my readership was strangers! I hadn't even worked with the colleagues we met through for a year when I started the blog, and I haven't spoken to or seen them for about three years!
"But once Natalie had finished pouring scorn on her ex-fiancĂ Tom, she found herself reluctant to give up her blog."
Once again, the Daily Mail is making me out to be a cyber bunny boiler who just couldn't stop wreaking revenge or should I say "pouring scorn" on my exes. This is a personal blog, a diary which has provided snapshots of my life. As I didn't start this blog to take revenge, there was nothing to be reluctant about giving up! This is a total and utter fabrication!
***
Just to show how inaccurate the Daily Mail are, let me give you some interesting figures:
In June 2004, my first month, I wrote 23 posts (yeah, I was single and used to update frequently!)
Out of 23 posts, only one post is dedicated to him which equals 4% of the content.
There are 2 more posts that make a reference to him. 1 post is a positive reference and 1 post is about men peeing on toilet seats and I wisecracked that he missed the rim.
In July 2004, I wrote 27 posts. 0 were dedicated to the subject of him. 2 made a reference to him and 1 made a reference to our engagement ring which I just realised that I have still forgotten to sell after FIVE years!
In August 2004, I wrote 22 posts. 0 were dedicated to the subject of him. 2 made a reference.
That means that out of 72 posts written in 3 months, 1 PERCENT of the posts were dedicated to him!
8% referenced him.
1% referenced the engagement ring.
Now what they don't know is that FORTY THREE PERCENT!!! of posts in June 2004 seem to mention toilet seats and the fact that I was living with that strange man boy who literally couldn't p*ss on a toilet seat to save his life!
Now, how the hell did the Daily Mail come up with the idea that I set up a revenge blog when I wasn't even writing about him, never mind taking revenge? What was I doing? Taking revenge on toilet seats and men that can't pee right?
Oh and I went from being engaged for 14/15 months (I forget now after soooo much time has passed) to being engaged for FIVE years! We've been broken up for five years and I've lived in London for seven... I'm only thirty so did they think I was some sort of frickin' child bride?!
Twenty frickin' bloody six inaccuracies or just outright fabrications about me in one poxy article and to add insult to injury, they didn't even mention Baggage Reclaim which was the only reason why I had initially agreed.
Of course I have written to the Press Complaints Commission, the editor and yada, yada, yada, but the fact remains that their papers become someones loo roll the next day but that pile of shite that is their article is up online telling anyone and everyone that I am an e-venger. It's pretty disgusting and what's most appauling is that they have reduced four years of this blog, two and a half years of Baggage Reclaim, a year of Bambino Goodies, and various other blogs plus my contributing...to an act of revenge....against someone who didn't even mean enough for me to even fully dedicate the one blog post about his cheating. I even said "The revelation last night doesn't hurt, but it does anger me, but even that has passed." and then in true me fashion, I rambled on about my period....
Oh and I know for a fact that they stopped publishing comments on the story yesterday as I was contacted by several people who said that they had commented to set the record straight. So not only do they want to put up 26 inaccuracies about me, but for some reason, they don't want anyone to know about it...
If this was pre-internet days, I really would be up sh*ts creek without a paddle but thankfully the internet which has made me connect with thousands of people, make quite few friends and acquaintances, and even a stalker...has meant that at least I can respond.
Jaysus!
Update 14th May
The Daily Mail have removed the article and sent me a letter...
Update 9th May - As I start to put the word out about what has happened, I want to include links of other bloggers comments of support on their blogs. Thank you!
Dollymix - Cate Sevilla
It's About Making Babies - Brad K
Shimmering Thoughts - Serendipity
Black and Married with Kids - TheMom and TheDad
Cheekie Talkback
Rachel North
One Man Blogs - Gordon McLean
Bad Girls Guide - Vixen
40s Singleness - Lisa Q
Leyton.org
Feeling Listless
The Make - Thomas
Emchi
Morphological Confetti - Stephen Bess
The F Word - Contemporary UK Feminism
Never Mind the Bloggocks
License to Roam
Longrider
Slaminsky
Real E Fun
The Kaptain Kobold Blog
New York Moments
My updates
I'm Tired of the Daily Mail and their "tongue in cheek" article
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